The Woman, her Pron, and her Drive
I've been reading around a lot lately and this whole debate on pron is really bumming me out. Sometimes I think ignorance is bliss. I like pron. Always have. I don't need it or anything but I guess it's the seeing of things/acts that aren't supposed to be seen.
Sex, I have learned, who's fcuking whom, where, when - is one of those hands off kind of subjects. As long as no one is getting hurt.
I think that if you really want to get to know your man, check out what type of pron he likes. It can be quite revealing. For instance, my significant other tends to trade pron a lot with his cousins. Bet you I can tell you which cousin he got it from just by the quality and content of the pron. If it has lots of Latina's you can be sure he got it from his cousin with the Mexican girlfriend. If its really ghetto then he got it from his hood rat lovin cousin (his term not mine). Sad but true. Mine loves the big booty variety. The list goes on and on. I know a little more than I should but for the most part I am dead on about his sources. I'm pretty sure these guys aren't woman haters thinking to themselves whilst choking their chickens "ooooh these Brazilian hotties have no other economical choices than to be objectified by my patriarchal self gratification and capitalistic power of purchase. What a turn on!!" Naw, I think they basically zone in their actress of choice in whatever fave position of choice, fantasize and commence to self abuse. They hide their pron in shame from their women.
This is not to say that I haven't seen some offensive things too. The wonderful thing about pron is just like sex, if you don't like it then don't do it, don't watch it, and for chrissake don't buy it!! I am a very visual person so the pron variety that I like, I buy. Some I share with my man, some I sneak and watch when have time and am alone (which is very few and far in between).
Which brings me to the subject of drive... I get accused of being a nypho cause I can be a horn dog sometimes. Sometimes I guess my drive can be described as masculine. When I like what I see, I speak up on it. Sometimes my man can walk by and I will notice what first attracted me to him and I still get heart flutters and a little flushed. I can't tell him that though. He says I am objectifying him and he doesn't quite know how to handle it. Mind you we've been together for 8 years going on 9 this summer. I say hey equal opportunity sexual exploitation, deal with it. He loves when I dress sexy, loves to see the hungry stares from other men looking in my direction, loves to shoot those appreciative looks of desire my way himself. But since I am born woman, it feels uncomfortable for me to do the same.
Exposed tits in a movie? Man I almost cried real tears when Hallie Berry showed hers in Swordfish. He says beautiful. Penises on film -- gross. Anybody seen that man meat in Any Given Sunday??? Football players naked yum. Or how's about giving Terrance Howard a round of applause for displaying his hidden attributes in Get Rich or Die Trying???? First sex symbol actor dick I ever saw exposed in my little life. Lets move forward Americans and show me your money maker!!! LOL!! I kid a little but seriously whats all the mystery around the dick? I say lets even it out a little so that we can all relax and appreciate the relief fantasy gives without the god damn guilt trips. Quit selling this Lifetime soap opera sex bullshit to our little girls. It is not that pretty, clean, or painless. Sex can be confusing, painful, ugly(I am scared to think what my fuck face looks like), definitely dirty (in a good way). I think more women should objectify their men. Even it up a bit. I just can't take all the sad stories about pron though. Its starting to fuck with me. I don't want be thinking about how the patriarchy has brainwashed me into thinking that I think this mans impressively thick penis is hot because that is the way they want me to think or that lipstick dykes are sexy when they kiss. When I am in the mood for sex and all its trappings - I must tell you - my feminism goes straight out the door.
Sex, I have learned, who's fcuking whom, where, when - is one of those hands off kind of subjects. As long as no one is getting hurt.
I think that if you really want to get to know your man, check out what type of pron he likes. It can be quite revealing. For instance, my significant other tends to trade pron a lot with his cousins. Bet you I can tell you which cousin he got it from just by the quality and content of the pron. If it has lots of Latina's you can be sure he got it from his cousin with the Mexican girlfriend. If its really ghetto then he got it from his hood rat lovin cousin (his term not mine). Sad but true. Mine loves the big booty variety. The list goes on and on. I know a little more than I should but for the most part I am dead on about his sources. I'm pretty sure these guys aren't woman haters thinking to themselves whilst choking their chickens "ooooh these Brazilian hotties have no other economical choices than to be objectified by my patriarchal self gratification and capitalistic power of purchase. What a turn on!!" Naw, I think they basically zone in their actress of choice in whatever fave position of choice, fantasize and commence to self abuse. They hide their pron in shame from their women.
This is not to say that I haven't seen some offensive things too. The wonderful thing about pron is just like sex, if you don't like it then don't do it, don't watch it, and for chrissake don't buy it!! I am a very visual person so the pron variety that I like, I buy. Some I share with my man, some I sneak and watch when have time and am alone (which is very few and far in between).
Which brings me to the subject of drive... I get accused of being a nypho cause I can be a horn dog sometimes. Sometimes I guess my drive can be described as masculine. When I like what I see, I speak up on it. Sometimes my man can walk by and I will notice what first attracted me to him and I still get heart flutters and a little flushed. I can't tell him that though. He says I am objectifying him and he doesn't quite know how to handle it. Mind you we've been together for 8 years going on 9 this summer. I say hey equal opportunity sexual exploitation, deal with it. He loves when I dress sexy, loves to see the hungry stares from other men looking in my direction, loves to shoot those appreciative looks of desire my way himself. But since I am born woman, it feels uncomfortable for me to do the same.
Exposed tits in a movie? Man I almost cried real tears when Hallie Berry showed hers in Swordfish. He says beautiful. Penises on film -- gross. Anybody seen that man meat in Any Given Sunday??? Football players naked yum. Or how's about giving Terrance Howard a round of applause for displaying his hidden attributes in Get Rich or Die Trying???? First sex symbol actor dick I ever saw exposed in my little life. Lets move forward Americans and show me your money maker!!! LOL!! I kid a little but seriously whats all the mystery around the dick? I say lets even it out a little so that we can all relax and appreciate the relief fantasy gives without the god damn guilt trips. Quit selling this Lifetime soap opera sex bullshit to our little girls. It is not that pretty, clean, or painless. Sex can be confusing, painful, ugly(I am scared to think what my fuck face looks like), definitely dirty (in a good way). I think more women should objectify their men. Even it up a bit. I just can't take all the sad stories about pron though. Its starting to fuck with me. I don't want be thinking about how the patriarchy has brainwashed me into thinking that I think this mans impressively thick penis is hot because that is the way they want me to think or that lipstick dykes are sexy when they kiss. When I am in the mood for sex and all its trappings - I must tell you - my feminism goes straight out the door.
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